Here's a fun little list of what a GOOD, DECENT, GENTLEMANLY boyfriend can and SHOULD do for us ladies.
1) Be the lady's chauffeur in times of need. If she has to take her vehicle in to get fixed, for example, arrangements should be made so that he can pick her up and take her where ever she desires until the vehicle is finished at the shop. Further, his responsibility is to drive whenever the lady is in his or her car. Along with this comes the obligation to DRIVE SAFELY AND CAREFULLY. Rarely do ladies get in cars just for a roller-coaster type ride.
2) Personal massage therapist. Listen up, guys: a man who knows how to rub away achy muscles is one women adore. That doesn't mean digging into their flesh like you're trying to make ground beef. Some women like deep-tissue massage. Others like the lighter touch massages like Shiatsu. The point is: know how to massage well.
3) Personal package carrier. Now, I'm rather independent and like to show-off my physical strength, but even I like having fellows carry those heavy things about for me. Even if it's just a small shopping bag, it makes the fellow more masculine in the girlfriend's eyes.
4) Car doctor. Even if the man isn't a mechanic, he should learn about cars to an extent. That way, if the lady's car breaks down, he can pop open the hood and know where to look. Then, he can tell his lady what he thinks is wrong so she can relay that to a mechanic. In any case, it looks cute (at least to me).
5) Personal chair assistant. Anytime the lady needs to sit down, the man must pull out her chair, help her into it (even if she's quite capable of doing it herself), and then help her scoot it in. If, for some reason, the chair or seating is attached to the floor, he must still help the lady into it. THEN he can seat himself. It makes the lady feel ultra-feminine and cared for.
6) Personal warmer. Movies are the most popular place for this. You're sitting in the theater, watching the film, when your lady starts getting cold. What to you do? Offer her your jacket (if you have one), and let her cuddle up to you. Guys run hotter the gals for this reason alone (forget what science tells you). This scenario applies elsewhere as well, like a night on the town, etc.
7) Jacket assistant. This comprises of three duties. One: he must always help the lady out of her coat/jacket/sweater anytime she desires to remove it. Two: if there is no place designated to hang it, he must carry it (tying back into the package carrier role). Three: if the lady wants to put it back on, he must help her into it. I've had an older friend of mine do this for me, and WOW what a rush. I felt so appreciated and feminine.
8) Personal cheer-up doctor. If the lady has just had a bad day, the man is obligated to think of something to cheer her up. It could be something as simple as giving her a hug and kiss (WITHOUT DEMANDING MORE) and telling her she looks gorgeous and she's still number one in your world (believe me, THIS would go a LONG way). It could be more complex, like planning a night-out to her favorite places. It could sitting and watching her favorite chick flick, no matter how unmalely (a word from my vocab) it might feel. Just do something to put a smile on her face.
9) Personal door opener. Anytime the lady is to go through a door, the man MUST open it and hold it for her. I adore this one. I always smile and say “thank you” when a fellow does this for me. What a rush of femininity!
10) Personal guard. Now going hyper-protective is NOT healthy behavior. But feeling obligated to watch over the lady's personal health – both physical and psychological – is fine. This means: getting in between her and any shady characters in the street, keeping her away from stupid drunks should there be any around, defending her when someone attempts put her down or bully her around, being her support in times of darkness, etc. DON'T Try to protect her from whatever it is (except if it's something physical hurtling towards her). Just be there with her. Be her knight in shining armor with common sense.
